Santosh Rathod

Here are the top five mistakes men make when they start to date online…and how to avoid them!

Mistake#1.
Having a Boring, Average Profile!

You have to put some real effort into your profile to make it shine above the masses.

Creating a unique, well-thought-out profile will instantly give you an advantage over 90% of the other men.

Tip one.

Create an interesting / different profile with some humor.
Be sure to have nothing negative in your profile…

Tip two.

Have a good, recently taken photo!
Try a head and shoulders shot and smiling to begin with.

Mistake#2.
Placing Too High a Value on a Potential Date!

This is another instinctive mistake when first starting out.

Your mind plays tricks on you and you put the lady on a pedestal before even meeting her!

Especially if you haven’t had a date for a while…

Tip one.

Treat every potential date as an opportunity for YOU to check HER out and see if you fancy her!

Tip two.

NEVER expect to meet the love of your life on a first date.

This way you will never be disappointed and sometimes very pleased.

Mistake#3.
Not Meeting Her Quickly Enough!

I did this myself for far too long.

The longer you leave it before you meet, the less likely it is to happen.

So forget about emailing for months and getting all worked up over email.

As soon as possible, meet for coffee and a chat to see if you like each other.

This will save you a lot of time and energy…and disappointments.

Tip one. Ask for a coffee date in the first two weeks of emails.

Tip two. If she doesn’t agree to meet, move on and don’t worry about it.

There are plenty more… :-]

Mistake#4.
Emailing Interstate and Overseas Profiles!

I did this a lot when I first started dating online.

It’s tempting to do but is a complete waste of your time, energy and focus.

Unless you are rich and have a lot of spare time, don’t bother with interstate and overseas profiles.

What are the odds of you two ever hooking up?

Very little chance of it…

Why would someone interstate or overseas be better than someone local?

Tip one.

Only focus on and contact women in your immediate area.

Tip two.

Keep it down to 100 km radius from your home. This will keep your expenses and time travels down…

Mistake#5.
Not Choosing the Meeting Café.

This is more important than it sounds. Women like to be led by a decisive man. So decide/suggest the café, time and date.

If she can’t make it when you suggest, reschedule to suit her…within reason.

She will get the impression you are not timid and are comfortable making decisions…this is good.

Tip one.

Make the first date during a week night. This will suggest you have a life and are busy on the weekend.

Tip two.

Be relaxed at the coffee date. Don’t mention past partners or that you haven’t been dating for a long time. Just have some fun and BE happy…

Avoiding these five mistakes will save you a lot of time, money, energy and focus with online dating. This will prevent you from quitting before you get the results you desire and deserve.

Have fun and many happy seductions…

Hahnemann’s day, the conventional theory of disease was based on the four humours. Mainstream medicine focused on restoring the balance in the humours, either by attempting to remove an excess (by such methods as bloodletting and purging, laxatives, enemas and nauseous substances that made patients vomit) or by suppressing symptoms, such as by lowering the body temperature of patients who were feverish. By contrast, Hahnemann promoted an immaterial, vitalistic view of disease: “…homeopathy…can easily convince…that the diseases of man are not caused by any substance, any acridity…any disease matter, but that they are solely spirit-like (dynamic) derangements of the spirit-like power (the vital principle) that animates the human body.”

Vitalism was a part of mainstream science in the 18th century. In the twentieth century, medicine discarded vitalism in favour of the germ theory of disease, following the work of Louis Pasteur, Alexander Fleming, Joseph Lister and many others. Modern medicine sees bacteria and viruses as the causes of many diseases, but Kent and some modern homeopaths regard them as effects, not causes, of disease. Others have adapted to the views of modern medicine by referring to disturbances in, and stimulation of, the immune system, rather than the vital force.

As previously stated, homeopathy stemmed in part from the idea of medical similars, the idea that ‘like cures like’ while Hahnemann was translating into German the Materia Medica (1789) of William Cullen, the so-called Scottish Hippocrates. On reading that Cinchona bark (which contains quinine) was effective because it was bitter, Hahnemann felt this implausible because other substances were as bitter but had no therapeutic value. To understand the effects of Cinchona bark, he decided to take it himself, and saw that his reactions were similar to the symptoms of the disease it was used to treat. At least one writer has suggested that Hahnemann was hypersensitive to quinine, and that he may have had an allergic reaction.

Yet, this proving experiment by Hahnemann was by no means unique, as others before him had tried the same approach, such as, for example, Anton von Störck (1731-1803), “in the 1760’s, who advocated treatment by cautious use of poisons.” Indeed, Hahnemann had studied briefly in Vienna (1777) where Störck eventually became head of the University. The proving idea had also been recommended by the great Swiss medical botanist, Albrecht von Haller, (1708-77), who Hahnemann admired, and whose Materia Medica he translated in 1806. It might be said the proving experiment came to Hahnemann from several previous sources.

For Hahnemann, the whole body and spirit was the focus of therapy, not just localised disease. Hahnemann spent a lot of time with his patients, asking them not only about their symptoms or illness, but also about their daily lives. This gentle approach contrasted with the violent forms of heroic medicine common at the time, which included techniques such as bleeding as a matter of course.

Nearly as important as Hahnemann to the development of homeopathy was James Tyler Kent (1849 – 1921). Kent’s influence in the USA was limited, but in the UK, his ideas became the homeopathic orthodoxy by the end of the First World War. His most important contribution may be his repertory, which is still used today. Kent’s attempt to rescue an idealized pure homeopathy from what he saw as its degenerate mongrel forms was authoritarian, as he sought to re-emphasize the metaphysical and clinical aspects of Hahnemann’s teachings, in particular:

insistence on the core doctrines of miasm and vital force;
emphasis on case totality rather than rote prescribing for ‘named diseases’
emphasis on psychological symptoms (to supplement physical pathology) in prescribing; and regular use of very high potencies.
Influenced by Swedenborgianism, Kent reputedly emphasized ’spiritual factors’ as the root cause of disease.

“…for it goes to the very primitive wrong of the human race, the very first sickness of the human race that is the spiritual sickness… which in turn laid the foundation for other diseases.”