They don’t understand how hard it is do they? Parents and Teachers. When they tell you to be yourself . They don’t understand that maybe, you don’t want to be yourself. That the only way you’re ever going to fit in, is if you change. And be something you’re not.
Do they understand that due to peer pressure and you can’t be yourself. That you have to be someone else in order to be accepted and liked? Do they understand that you want to be the person across the room, who couldn’t be more different from you, just for the fact that he’s popular and he ‘fit’s in.’ Even though you’ve always hated those type of person, you want to be one.
Or you could be the opposite. Be the total opposite of everyone. On purpose. Well done for being unique, but if you’re being different from everyone else on purposeyou’re still not being yourself, so you’re still being something you’re not.
So how can you be yourself? It is a lot harder than teachers and parents may realise, but i do have some tips.
1. DON’T let anyone influence you and your decisions. Easier said than done, but DON’T do something because all your mates want to. If you’ve been shopping, and you’re showing your best friend that awesome new shirt you bought, and you can tell he doesn’t like it, so what?
Yeah, you’d be happier if he liked it, and you’re a little dissapointed, but you’re not going to take it back. YOU like it, that’s all that matters.
2. DO invite you’re friends round for a clothes/shoes swapping session. Get all the clothes and shoes that don’t fit, or you don’t like anymore, and get them to do the same. You’ll find out a wicked (and unique) style, and it’s recycling!
3. DON’T change your personality to get someone to like you. If you pretend to be someone you’re not, it’s like you’re acting. Sooner or later you’re bound to mess up your lines and get found out. If someone doesn’t like you for you - it’s their loss. This is a must remember with boys.
And finally, remember that it’s okay to want to be ‘that person’ who’s popular and good looking. Just don’t turn into him, there’s plenty of people who love you just how you are, and they wouldn’t know what to do if you changed.
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